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Day 760: Home is where the heart is

This is beautiful and wanted to share.

“It’s very simple to be kind,” says seven-year-old Jacob. “At the end of the day, homeless people are just humans with a lot of bad luck.”


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Day 758: Rest in peace, Frank

If you’ve been following this blog for a while, you may remember me mentioning Frank Nelson.

A true hero.

Frank, from Barrie, Ontario, was diagnosed in 2010 with stage-four colon cancer.

Many folks in that situation would either give up entirely, or work on their “bucket list” of things they want to do or experience while they can.

But Frank’s bucket was different. He wanted to fill it with ways he could help others.

FrankHe started a Facebook group called “Paying it Back” where those in need would write in (or nominate friends or family who needed some help).

He ended up becoming a true local hero who gave $1,000 at a time to more than 40 families in need, and eventually (with the help of others’ contributions and corporate sponsors) he also:

  1. Arranged the donation of wheelchairs.
  2. Helped fund lunches for students
  3. Funded a grocery shopping trip as a surprise for families in need
  4. Surprised kids with medical issues with gifts, hockey game tickets and other special experiences
  5. Supported a range of community organizations that help others

And much, much more.

But beyond all the good works he did, he inspired countless people, who are now flooding his FB group page with memories, thanks, and stories. Beautiful to see.

Sadly, Frank lost his battle with cancer on Friday.

Here’s the announcement from his family on his Paying it Back FB page:

My family and I would like to inform everyone that has not already heard, of my father’s passing on December 8th. Many of you in this group have not only supported his journey but have become close friends and extended family. Since his passing, we have received an out pouring of love, and support and we are so grateful for all of your kind words. My father’s big heart, kindness and passion for helping others are only a small part of the incredible man he was and we were so proud of the way he handled his diagnosis by making the decision to start a small ripple that he dreamed would grow and spread to impact the world. It started with one small gesture and became so much more than he imagined, thank you all for being a part of that.

Anyone who would like to pay their respects are welcome to attend the visitation and service being held at Steckley Gooderham Funeral Home on Minets point in Barrie. Please visit their website at www.steckleygooderham.com for the scheduled dates and times.

At my father’s request, we would ask anyone attending to wear bright, and lively colors. My father was a positive man and wishes to have this be a celebration of his life. A day filled with smiles, laughter and as he always said “happy tears”.

In lieu of flowers my Dad would like those who wish to honor him, do so by either making a donation to World Vision or by taking the time to complete an act of kindness and posting it to the page.

Let’s rally together and flood this page with positive memories and our own “Paying it Back” experiences.
With Love,
The Nelson Family 

I support World Vision and will continue to do so in Frank’s memory.

Frank, I hope you’re smiling down on all the lives you touched and people you inspired, including me. ♥♥♥


Song for the day. One of my all-time favourites, even though it makes me cry like a baby.

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Day 757: And I will give you rest

Saw this story today and wanted to share.

We Canadians know just how cold and unforgiving winter can be, so I can’t even imagine the struggles homeless people have to deal with this season.

This lovely, caring church group in Winnipeg provides winter shelter for those in need, but also got together to crochet plastic bags into sleeping mats. What a great idea and kind effort. Really warmed my heart and I hope it does yours.

Full story here.

So, what am I doing to help? Great question! 😊

I have been trying to organize a winter coat drive at my office and I will keep you posted!

Song for the day… Charlie Brown Christmas was on the other night and it never fails to get me into the holiday spirit… that Vince Guaraldi soundtrack is one of my all-time faves. Enjoy!

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Day 755: 5 ways to celebrate World Kindness Day

flowersToday is World Kindness Day, basically the Olympic Games for good-deed bloggers.

The pressure is on and I am UP for it! Well, I’ll try, anyways.

Here are the 5 ways I plan to be kinder today:

  1. Lend a hand
    I got a head start this morning when our elevator wasn’t working. (Apparently the elevator software was in “holiday” mode because of our office being in a public building and it’s a government holiday for Remembrance Day.)There were two strapping young gentlemen in the elevator with me, but I volunteered to hike down the long hallway to security to alert them of the problem. The security guard at the main desk put in a phone call and the person acted so quickly, the doors almost shut before I ran back into the lift. That would’ve meant seven flights of stairs for me. Not a great way to maintain a kind mood… but I digress.
  2. Don’t be annoying
    Not as easy as it sounds. How have I accomplished this so far? I let others go ahead of me in line for the microwave in the staff kitchen, not letting my hunger pains turn me into an ogre who stampedes to put their lunch in first. Oh, I also avoided making loud phone calls next to others and kept my cracker crunching to a minimum.
  3. Let a smile be your umbrella
    It actually is raining today, so that kind of fits. 🙂 I tried to make a new person feel welcome this morning and smiled at 2.6 strangers (one of them wasn’t a complete stranger).
  4. Truly listen
    This one can be hard. When you’re busy or in a rush, it can be really stressful to stop and take the time to listen to someone who needs to share something. It wasn’t easy, but I did do this today, and I want to try and do it more often.
  5. Reach out 
    I spoke with two family members today and messaged a friend, and I want to connect even more this afternoon. I’ve been in that mindset before where you’re waiting for someone to contact you and wondering why they haven’t. Fortunately, I usually snap out of it, give my head a shake and say to myself, “Maybe they’re wondering the same thing about you, bozo.” (I know I usually recommend being kind to yourself, but sometimes something stronger is required. 🙂 )

Have fun out there celebrating, my friends!!!!

Song for the day… a Smile from me to you. Enjoy!

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Day 744: Poetry Friday

Needed to hear this today. Just in case you do, too, I thought I’d share. Powerful.


Because opening our heart to others often begins with opening our heart to ourselves. And that doesn’t mean letting ourselves off the hook, or giving ourselves an easy ride.

But digging deep to be our best selves. Finding the motivation we need to do the best we can with the gifts we’ve been given. To make an effort to make a positive difference in the world, even in small, everyday ways. To try and love our neighbours as ourselves.

Happy Friday!

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Day 743: Only love can conquer hate


B.C.’s Jordan McIldoon with his girlfriend, Amber. (Source)

Some days it’s not easy to see the good in people. We’re surrounded by so much heartache and turmoil and violence and catastrophe that it numbs us to the small, tender mercies that can help us heal.

I heard this story on CBC Radio’s As It Happens today, and even though it broke my heart and made me burst into tears, it also helped restore my faith in the inherent goodness of our fellow humans.

It’s an interview with Heather Gooze, a Las Vegas bartender who was working at the Harvest Music Festival when shots started to ring out.

She describes the terror and the chaos and the mass panic of the crowd, but she also shares how Jordan McIldoon, 23, from Maple Ridge, B.C., died as she held his hand. And how she stayed with him for the next five hours.

“I couldn’t just leave him by himself,” Gooze told As It Happens host Carol Off. “I don’t know, I just couldn’t leave him.”

It’s a very upsetting interview to listen to, but please do. Getting a glimpse of the compassion and purity of heart this woman shared with Jordan and his family gave me a glimmer of hope for our future.

And reminded me why I started this blog in the first place… because I believe that even small gestures and everyday kindness can make a positive difference in this world.

It’s a place to start, anyways.

Listen to interview here:


Full story here.


Was also sad to hear yesterday that one of my favourite musicians, Tom Petty, passed away. He was a true original. Love this performance he shared with Stevie Nicks.

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Day 741: Elevator diaries

travel-tourism-elevator-lift-automatic_elevator-hotel-elevator_control-vsh0304_low.jpgSo, how’s your day going? Busy? Not busy enough? I hear ya.

Mine’s going okay, pretty quiet.

So quiet that something occurred to me today. I realized that without consciously thinking about it, I’ve started to talk to strangers more than I used to.

Now, the thought of saying even “Hello” to a stranger used to send me into a state of panic. No idea why. I might muster up a smile in return for one, or hold a door open for someone, but rarely, if ever, would I initiate any convo with someone I didn’t know.

“You dropped your glove,” is about as friendly as I’d get.

I think what helped me is that, when our office moved to our current building, we needed security guards to ride up the elevators with us and operate it with a key for the first six months.

The first trips in silence were beyond awkward, so I started asking them how they were doing, what book they were reading, any plans for the weekend? Kindergarten stuff for some, PhD thesis stuff for me.

In fact, when they upgraded our elevators so that we could operate them by ourselves, I really missed those guys. And still say hello when I see them on the main floor.

At first, I thought I was doing them a good deed by giving them a break from a boring task. But once they moved on, I realized they’d been giving me the break. Some warmth, some human connection in a sometimes frosty environment.

So now I’ve started to chat with other strangers too. If I give money to someone sitting in the subway, I greet them or *gasp* make eye contact. Also when waiting in line or for the bus.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s still not easy for me… but it is getting easier… baby steps, my friends, baby steps.


Thought this song was appropriate for today. 🙂


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